My high school sweetheart and husband of 29 years passed away from a long battle with cancer. It felt like someone ripped my heart out of my chest as I realized I would have to continue in life without him. God blessed me with such a wonderful man to live the life God had for us. The pain of loneliness was too much, so I prayerfully searched for the man of God He would have for me to share the last part of life. As I prayed, God showed me to ask Him one by one which man He had set aside for me, much like Samuel’s search for the King of Israel in 1 Samuel 16. Then I met my Boaz, a brother in Christ who would love me as Christ loved the church, even in the shadow of my first love.
Losing the love of your life after a terminal illness has its own set of issues, along with the particulars of each person’s life station and situation. The spouse of someone so ill often suffers alone because they must be strong for this loved one. When a husband or wife dies, emptiness haunts every aspect of daily life for the one left behind. Some who have lost a spouse find the loneliness is overwhelming. Should I date again? Why do I feel like I am “cheating on” my sweetheart? So many difficult decisions face learning how to be who God created them to be as an individual.
Remarriage has its own nuances. As iron sharpens iron, so the sparks may fly! Oh, my! But the new love God brings to the one left behind is a unique blessing–becoming one–is a process. Prayerfully. Carefully. Lovingly.
By the way, God has blessed me with men uniquely gifted with ADD/HD! Sometimes our ADDventures are frustrating, sometimes, wacky, but always blessed by God. I call this heavenly union the ADDventures of Squirrel and Mouse. My Boaz and I periodically share helps, tips, and encouragement for Christian Squirrel & Mouse couples.